I'm reading a book by Dee Henderson and I found this quote on prayer from one of her characters interesting:
"To be passive and throw up your hands and say, 'I don't care, whatever you want Lord,' is as much a cop-out as pushing for only what you want and not being able or willing to accept something different. To deny Him being Lord. It hurts to not have your prayers answered. The difference is I still believe in the One to whom I pray, whereas you have simply stopped praying."